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She never focussed her energies too closely to analyse the gendered spaces while travelling in a bus. Mostly, buses had seats especially for women; so this made things easy. But this time the situation was different. She was on a district bus without ladies seat allocations and she was alone. There were too few women travelling by the bus to have separate seats. The conductor and bus driver did try to ensure the women were seated together. But some of the women got left out. She, however, was seated right behind the entry way near the aisle when a man came and asked her to budge. She obliged and tucked herself close to the window, her bags on her lap. She watched the view outside, on a mission to tune the man next to her out.

After a few brief moments, he settled into his seat and fell asleep. She kept looking between him and the changing landscape. Contrary to her adjustment and uneasiness, he occupied the space with a prerogative. She marvelled at the way he sat with his legs apart, head titled and completely at ease. There was an advantage that existed in his posture. One that he didn’t seem aware of and until recently, she hadn’t even noticed. They had both paid the same Rs 93 for their seat. But he owned the space he sat in. She sat conservatively in hers.

Why did she not feel the comfort that he did? Was she scared? Or did men occupy space with more authority than women? She couldn’t place her finger on it. But throughout that four-hour bus journey she studied his active body language opposite of her passive, pulled back one. Maybe she could learn a few tips from him.

2 thoughts on “187 of 365

  1. It isn’t usually a function of gender, I feel it is a function of personality. I for myself am too aware if a lady sits by my side, like this girl, conservative in space. I do ease out a little after a while, but not too much either.

    Nice observation there.

    1. I agree. I have travelled many times where men next to me are careful.. But just to take the arguement a little further.. Even on the streets, I feel that men occupy it with authority and women tend to scuttle..
      Obviously doesn’t work for all men and women. That wouldn’t be a good generalisation to make. But I wonder what is the function of gender in such things. 🙂

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